Going for a second marriage after a divorce isn’t by far an easy task for the best of us, but there one thing that is undisputed when it comes to a such a union – the second marriage should be successful.
A divorce in India can be quite difficult for both men and women, which is why a second union is seen to be even tougher. Indian society continues to target itself by looking down upon those divorced, to the point where even children of divorced parents are shunned away from.
Here are some tips for Indian men and women to make their second marriage successful, long-lasting, and happy:
- Pointing out little problems constantly makes no one happy.
Nagging never got anyone anywhere, and in a marriage it can prove to be quite detrimental. Try to let go of the very-Indian tendency to nag your spouse about things that irritate you – remember that you too are human, and if necessary, there’s more than enough worth nagging about your personality too. It’s just human nature to have a find aspects of another person that can be annoying, letting such nonsensical matters go is essential for any marriage to be a happy one.
- Don’t indulge arguments
Yes, sometime your in-laws, and even your spouse, can prove to be very agitating, but that doesn’t imply that you have to join the club. Be calm, and courteous to your partner’s family.
If you spouse is in the mood to fight and argue loudly, just walk out of the argument. It’s better to just walk away from a confrontation, and hear or say something that neither party really means – it’s just things people say in the heat of the moment.
- Gifts can and do break the ice.
There a reason why greeting cards have no many different types and slogans – they actually work to pacify and express emotions. Gifting can be helpful for a number of occasions, from fights to anniversaries, and more.
Make sure that your second marital union is full of gifts, and other symbolic gestures of love and affection.
- Show and express gratitude.
Most couples in India aren’t really big on expressing their emotions consistently. This is undoubtedly among the leading causes of divorce in India.
Try to take note of the little things that your partner does for you daily, and make it a point to thank them for it. It’s important that your spouse knows that you notice his/her affection and efforts.
- Don’t obsess about his/her professional life too much.
This is something many Indian wifes and husbands get wrong. No one likes to bring their work home, which is why you should probably not talk too much about your spouse’s job.
Just be sure that your better half knows that you are there for them, and if there’s anything that he/she is disturbed about, you’ll be the first to know.
- Anger and rage are your enemies
Don’t yell or scream at your partner – nobody likes to be yelled at, which is why you should refrain from being the one who is doing the yelling, or even the one being yelled at.
Try to be calm and composed about arguments, and try your very best to refrain from them completely.
No second marriage after a divorce is easy – both parties need to make conscious efforts to make it successful and happy for themselves, and everybody else around them.
Taking note of the above mentioned tips will help men and women in India get over their divorce sooner, and move towards a happy marriage.